Contemplate for a minute a recent conversation you had with someone who has opposing thoughts or ideals to you. Can you recall the other “Side of the Pancake,” or the opposing perspective from the other person that you were communicating with ? Could you explain the opposite perspective? When you tell a story do you sometimes change or accommodate your story to synch up with the perspective of the other person you are telling the story to? To what extent can you offer a coherent argument that would represent the opposite of your perspective? In this case the ” Other Side of the Pancake.” or perspective from yours..
Strengthening our “Perspective Skills” doesn’t mean that we have to change our perspective or give up our convictions. We can incorporate certain ” Self Awareness” tools in our daily lives to increase our understanding of the “other side’s” perspective. We all have our own way of how we perceive the world. We all look at situations, and interpret what we perceive and believe the other person is going to say or how they are going to react to our perspective.
Much of our understanding is based on how we see our past experiences, our faith and our values which form our knowledge of ourselves and our world in general. What we perceive is based on the way we understand our society and how we function in it.
We can enhance our “Perspective Awareness” and develop “Perspective Skills” in our closest relationships. When a partner, friend, or family member represents the “other side”or the “Opposing Perspective” we tend to be more attentive and present due to our emotional involvement with these people. We tend to change our views about controversial issues when discussing certain topics ranging from politics, religious choices, gun control, gay marriage, immigration, sexual orientation, and a multitude of other problems we face in our daily lives. We certainly do not lack enough controversial issues that circle around us every day to engage in conversation.
We can improve our conversation and dialogue skills and develop a more in-depth listening focus with the people that are closest to us. We can improve our lives, and there’s simultaneously. Establishing and identifying like-minded thoughts can open up channels to effectively communicate which creates trust. To create dialogue that is based on mutual trust and respect makes it easier to reduce the potential for challenges when opposing thoughts surface.
When we choose to look at an issue from a different perspective, it allows us to step back and reassess the situation and collect new information to see the world from a different perspectives. This new knowledge will help you make the necessary changes in your behavior and promote more effective outcomes.
We are ever evolving and connecting with the world around us. We are forming judgments and opinions about a multitude of subjects, situations, and interaction every day. Our thoughts and biases have a direct correlation that affects our belief system.
The opportunity is presented to us every day to learn more about what the “Opposite Side ” is experiencing. What are the challenges, dreams, motives, principals, and reasons why the opposing person responds the way they do to us?
There are always alternative interpretations, and varying perspectives based on each’s others beliefs. There are” The Two sides of a Pancake ” and waiting to discover.
Here are 7 – ways to enhance your “Perspective Awareness” skills to provide a better understanding of the ” Two Sides of a Pancake.”
1. Be more open to accepting, and receiving diverse and alternative social media and news outlets. You will very easily come recognize varying points of view, description, attitudes, commentary, and different version of the same event or topic delivered in a range of ways. Diversity acceptance adds to our ” Perspective Awareness.” The key word is “Acceptance.”
2. When discussing a problematic issue with someone. Try and see if both of you can express, and put into words each other’s perspective. Clarify by chatting back and forth and see whether you have an understanding of each other’s perspective. See if by participating in the conversation you can provide additional clarity for each other by talking through the “other side.”
3. We need to become more open and diverse in our thinking. We all see the world through our filters. How we are genetically wired, is how we see the world. We have come to this very moment in time, as a result of how we were raised, and our education, our culture, our friends, our family and multitude of other conditions that have shaped our cognitive biases. Our “Perspectives” have ultimately been shaped by our understanding of how we see our world and our lives reflect how we see our “Side of the Pancake.”
4. Revisit the other person’s thoughts or ideas. Try to engage with the other person to create an outcome where you both can walk away with clarity, transparency, confidence, and reassurance that both sides are grateful for the exchange.
5. Learn to challenge ourselves when we sense our thoughts are creating a biased perspective. We can develop our ” Perspective Skills ” and experience a more balanced and realistic approach to communicating with other people. We can discover, and accept that situations and people can be different from how we understand things, which can support us in lead us to reforming our beliefs and promote positive change
6. To truly understand another person’s perspective, we need to empathize at some level, with a ” Self-Regulated ” approach to detachment or step back to maintain objectivity in evaluating the issues and “opposing perspectives.”
7. You need to be compassionate and empathetic enough to see the world from the other person’s perspective even if you disagree with it. Then you can utilize your “Perspective Filter, from an open , receptive approach that can improve lives for both people.
Final thoughts, we all get the opportunity to look on the bright side of every situation. We already have our, “Side of the Pancake.” By opening up and experiencing the ” Whole Pancake”, we can transform our view which allows us to see the ” Other Side of the Pancake. By seeing, ” The Two Sides of a Pancake” our world increases dramatically. We can expand our thoughts and receive twice as much form a connection with other people. Change your perspective and your view of the world will change. How you view the world, and how you feel about it will also transform.
Collect “The Whole Pancake:” the entire stack can be yours.
Take care, all the best.
Terry L. Danielson
Peace in your Mind, Peace on earth. Peace at work, peace at Home, Peace in the world.— John Lennon